relationships

so i was just thinking about this morning that everyone is always talking about how great social media is and how it is this, or that or whatever. 

but what about the downsides? i mean for example after a break up (which i haven't had in two years and i hope doesn't happen AGAIN this christmas) for example on facebook  everyone now knows you are broken up, which can be a good think and avoid awkward situations later, but then it also created a lot of weird tension in the facebook world. 

you start paying attention to what people are posting on your ex's wall and the photos that he/she has uploaded. it begins to make you a crazy person. with every new picture or comment of whatever you begin to see who they are hanging out with what they are doing.

when i had my first major break up i was a senior in high school and we didn't have facebook, so after we broke up you sort of forget about the other person. is that the way it should be? you get your old boyfriend box burn it and never have to think about the guy again.

instead now we start "facebook stalking" people to figure out why he broke up with us. was it another girl? we become this creepy stalking detective.

anyway i know this is a random thought but maybe after we break up with someone, we need to lay off the stalking and just do our best to forget them, like we did back when i was a kid.